There comes a time in the spiritual journey when you start making choices from a very different place. And if a choice lines up so that it supports truth, health, happiness, wisdom and love, it’s the right choice. —Angeles Arrien (1940-2015) Anthropologist
When I read this quote, I thought, this is what compassion for the self looks like. Everything I have learned from my research and heard during my interviews with parents, doctors, teachers, and policy makers about healing from childhood obesity and child sexual abuse comes back to compassion for the self and for your child; without it the world is a lonely place where you and your child feel vulnerable and abandoned.
Learning to have compassion for yourself as the caregiver will help you better understand what your child needs from you. Compassion for yourself is about respecting, accepting, and choosing joy for yourself and your child.
I hope you will begin to experience compassion, worthiness, and joy as we explore the answers to these questions in my blog postings:
What keeps us from being tender, loving, and kind to ourselves?
How are we reflecting or excepting these feelings of unworthiness and shame outwardly, and to our children?
How do our children perceive our attitudes towards ourselves, our body shape, our health?
How am I, and my children, affected by Big Food?
How am I protecting myself and my children from fat-shaming?
What is the link between childhood trauma and overeating or binging?
What is weight bias? How do I deal with weigh bias at home, at school and at the doctors office?